“I will still love you…”

You’re definitely going to love this.
The other day, our 5yr old sage kid over here walked up to me shortly after dropping her place in the kitchen and said,

‘Cynthia I’ve finished my food’

Cynthia: (giving her a high five) Good girl! Did you like it?

Sage kid: yes. I loved it. (After a brief pause) even if it was peppery, i still loved it.

Cynthia: (chuckles) awww. Thank you!

Sage kid: (smiling) and i love you too.

Cynthia: (grins)😀

Sage kid: “I love you. 

Even if you beat me, i will still love you.       Even if you yell at me, i will still love you.   Even if you take away my toys and stop me from playing, i will still love you.   

Even if you force me to go and sleep, i will still love you. 

And even when i say you’re not my friend again and that i don’t love you, i will still love you”.

She concluded, looking so innocent and true, her hands gestured “i just love you”

For a while i was speechless and smiling – i wanted to cry. Then i finally said,

“Emma, I love you too.

Even when you’re being naughty, i will still love you.

Even when i tell you to stop something and you don’t listen, i will still love you.

Even when i beat you, I will still love you. Okay?”

“Okay” she replied and nodded at the same time.

And with a smile that revealed her crooked, wobbly tooth, she ran off, leaving me SMILING.

Now, Without debate,

That once-in-a-while, spontaneous, out-of-the-blue expression of those deep feelings;

I don’t know about you, but to me,

It. Is. Priceless.

And you know what?

Being spontaneous in expression doesn’t have to do with our kids alone,

You(‘grown up’) can do it too….once in a while…just once in a while.

So I said to my dad at the end of our phone conversation yesterday,

“I love you”

He stuttered and replied,

“I love you, my daughter”

I was smiling when the call ended. I knew it got to him…I mean, he doesn’t get to hear it often.

So, aside showing, backing up with words once in a while, would have a great deal of impact.

Just ONCE in a WHILE,

Call, text, whisper…Smile widely to the person, and when asked why you’re smiling, just say…

I. LOVE. YOU.

….what do you think?

Drop your sagacious opinions.

Spark Regained 

I’m assuming.

You’ve felt it too, right?

That feeling that usually comes shortly after you’ve started something.

When suddenly, that great momentum, motivation and enthusiasm you started with all wears off…

And In it’s places comes that yucky, yet comforting feeling(state) of sheer indolence…you know you have to, you want to, but…you just don’t(won’t). You procrastinate instead…

You know the feeling, don’t you?

Well…

I Found myself in that zone recently… I got this lackadaisical attitude buttered with nonchalance towards my blogging and my wordpress family.

I got so much i wanted to share but, I just kept procrastinating. I got emails of new posts from blogs i followed but procrastinated checking them out.

 I allowed sage moments slip by without keeping them…due to one thing or the other.

I wanted to, but that spark just wasn’t there.

But thank goodness.

After a recent post by Moushmi Radhanpara, coupled by pushes from few close ones…

Guess what?

I regained my spark!

So, I(oursagekids) is back – with that undiluted spontaneous sagacity…in full force.

My wordpress family, I can’t thank you enough. For staying with oursagekids… 

And i must say, I’ve missed you…

It’s your love and support that really keeps the fire burning.

So we’re going to take this spark and work it to grow into a flame and then…

A fire…A wildfire.

#smiles….

“…I’m not impressed…”

We’ve got so much to take care of, yeah?

Tight schedules, jam-packed to-do lists, errands, unexpected occurrences…all to take care of!

So we’re busy…running here and there, doing this and that, most times…procrastinating.

Yet, In the midst of the multitasking, we still have to cater for the kids…ugh! The kids! …Make sure they eat, take baths, sleep…generally, they have to be alive, well, safe and comfortable….all their needs have to be met.

But hey!…we can’t cater for all their needs, right?…we need help.

Ok fine. The household needs we can manage, but what about the need for education?(we can’t add that to the loads of household needs, can we?)

So, we send them to school…to get the educational needs met.

So as far as they are in school, we have no problem…it is taken care of.

Since It all lies on them(the school), they just have to know how to go about it.(it’s not our problem).

Hence, it becomes division/specialisation of  labour: household needs – me.

Educational/Intellectual needs – school.

So, this is mine, I’ll deal with it. That is yours, deal with it.

Simple, yeah?

That’s great.

Now permit me to share with you a quick something…

So, i went to drop off our sage kids over here in school.

On arrival, i took the 5yr old to her class.

We got to her class, she removed her books from her bag and took her bag to the corner where it is usually kept. Before dropping her books amongst pile that laid on the table.

I greeted her teacher with the widest smile available that morning, it was topped off with  a beautiful enthusiasm that i didn’t summon; she replied my greetings warmly.

And i was about leaving when i heard,

“Aunty Cynthia please wait” from the teacher.

“Oh, ok ma” i said standing by, still smiling as i watched her put a child through an assignment he failed to do. 

She finally came to her sit and motioned to me to come close. 

I went and stood beside her.

“Aunty Cynthia, I’M NOT IMPRESSED”  she said, looking into my eyes as if trying to get the fact registered in my innermost being.

I looked backed, a little confused and with a feeling of uneasiness, i said nothing, but smiled to cover them up.

 She continued, 

“What do you do at home?…what is happening?”

No answer came forth.

 “I look at her assignments and i try to imagine; such fine girl in the house and it’s like this?”  gesturing to the book she had opened in front of her.

It finally dawned on me what she was talking about. At that moment all i had left was a faint smile that played with my lips as i came to the realisation that i had been slacking off. I tried to mutter some excuses, but nothing came forth so i shut it back and looked on.

It didn’t end there for she had more to pour from the bowels of necessity

“I understand mummy is busy, but what about you?

 Without giving her an answer, I hung My head in the air as i played with nothing with the big toe of my right foot.

After a brief silence of expecting an excuse but then accepting her question to be rhetorical, she went on…

“This girl is smart. I know her capabilities and she is no where close to it…we can help her…you can help us. Put her through, read with her, spell with her, study with her, anything; just help us. Ok?”

I nodded.

“Can i count on you” she asked, softly and smiling like a mother telling her child that she believes in him.

“Yes” i said, smiling sheepishly.

“Thank you”, she said and patted me on my  right shoulder.

“Alright, have a blessed day” 

“Thank you, ma”

She got up and walked to the front of the class as i walked out of the class with thoughts flooding my mind.

I knew i really needed to buckle up.

Before then i would leave everything for the school and if by chance they(oursagekids over here) threw a question at me i would say “go and ask your teacher in school”. And every other thing(assignments) was left to the lesson teacher/home tutor who comes only thrice a week, so on the days she doesn’t come the assignments would be left undone.

But After then, I took out few minutes to at least go through her books…most times i flip through, sometimes i glance through, then other times i really study the books and from there i got to correct any mistakes there was to correct, studied together and got to take note of her weaknesses and talked to her teacher about it.

And recently, on a monday morning i got to her class and went to her teacher and said,

“Mrs O.K, you won’t believe that since Friday evening I’ve been spelling ‘family’ with her and yet she can’t still spell it this morning. I even tried acting out the letters to her”

Guess her reply to me…

Thank you for your efforts, we can take it from there.

She said that smiling and giving her(our 5yr old sage kid over here) a high five. 

I was like…really!?!

She also gave me a pat on the back too which made me feel like i actually did something worthwhile. I left fulfilled and smiling.

So that was it…and it made me realise that we all have a role to play in the all round education of our kids

We make the work easier when we put in our little efforts.

I know, you’re trying, you’re juggling so much…you get tired and stressed out-you need help. …it is understood and appreciated.

But can i tell you that…

The secret to that extraordinary pupil/student in that class, is as a result of  the little relentless efforts of both the teachers in school and at home(parents…everyone).

So…

Take out few seconds(minutes) to…flip through. Glance through. Study-do it together. 

Go ahead to talk often with the teachers in school on how you can help the child do better.

And trust me…

Your efforts will not(never) be wasted. You can be sure of that.

Nominated for the versatile blogger award

You know how it feels, right?

You arrive at a place(home maybe), as innocently as always,

With few or no thoughts running through your mind.

You turn the door handle, the door opens,

 You enter, like you would on a normal day…’expecting nothing,

You turn on the light

And guess what?

Surpriiiiise!!!!, you hear them cheer.

You’re a little confused, 

You look around to find your loved ones all smiling,                    

 And Everywhere drowned in decorations.

a surprise party! It finally dawns on You.

You smile…

And just then, your long lost friends starts appearing from their hiding places

You can’t contain your joy. 

You want to  touch the sky

 As they hug and shower you with kisses and prayers

It feels like a dream. You want to be pinched

You feel loved. You feel appreciated.

You’re smiling. You’re happy. You’re grateful!

Sweet, isn’t it?

Yeah!

That was how i felt when i saw this and now as i type this.

My gratitude for this?

Trust me you can’t quantify it.

 It is an honor to be considered worthy of this.

And I’m deeply grateful, for the massive support and appreciation so far, i couldn’t ask for anything more even i get the chance…(i would though😉😁). It’s more like I’ve got a family.

My followers, visitors, likers, commentors…

*smiles*

Thank you for believing in our sage kids and contributing in your little ways. I am grateful. And I know that together, we’re going to take this beyond horizons….this(nomination) is for us.

Now, let’s proceed.

Meaning of Versatile Blogger Awards:-

Bloggers nominate other bloggers who they believe in, in recognition for their high quality standard of writing, uniqueness of contents, passion and love displayed throughout the site and to top it of, amazing photos.

And would you believe it?

I have been nominated for this award by Shalini.

Shalini, thank you! 

I am grateful.

Shalini is one person whose passion and dedication strikes me. And her openness and understanding sweeps me off my feet. Her love for books can never be overestimated, and that is what she does on her blog – www.bookreviewsbyshalini.wordpress.com. where she serves you tasty, tastebuds tickling dishes of books. She serves them after carefully preparing them with love and a personal relationship with the books just to get it to your table – ‘as you like it’. 

So what ever it is, from romance to thriller and everything around them…she’s got them on her menu. So be sure to fall in there anytime, 

and trust me…you can be sure that you will get something that will satisfy all your five(six) senses.(and get you buried in pages after pages).

With her honest, critical and constructive reviews, She is just amazing. 

Here are the RULES for this award:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and share their link.
  2. Nominate up to 10 bloggers for the award and provide links to their blogs. Also, inform them about the nomination.
  3. Reveal 7 facts about yourself we that your readers may not know

 Now sit tight cause my 7facts are coming up.(drum roll)….

  1. I’m open and really sensitive…(like a child).
  2. I can be really spontaneous and expressive especially when it comes to feelings and emotions.(no hold backs).
  3. I’m a ‘smiler’ and can really crack you up in my little way…(I’m one person i know that has entered a dentist clinic and told the doctor that i only brush once a week; she almost collapsed).
  4. Relationships(all kinds) are one thing i value so much. Plus, I’m an advocate for ‘keeping the fire burning’😁…
  5. With that childish spirit, i naturally forgive. I don’t hold on to wrongs for too long. But rights? That’s when remembering is inherent with me(i esteem good deeds).
  6. I love food and the simple art of cooking. And guess what, (wispering): I’d love to be a chef! *shhh*….
  7. I love reading and writing. I don’t really do sci-fi and all that, but basically, i appreciate good books.(i ask questions a lot too).

So, those are my seven sweet facts😉.

Now moving on….

MY NOMINATIONS

  1. http://rupaligoyal.wordpress.com/
  2. solohbillywrites.wordpress.com
  3. ajibolasunday.wordpress.com
  4. awesomewrites.wordpress.com
  5. houstonphotojourney.com
  6. lifeaccording2liv.wordpress.com
  7. liveyourdreams247.wordpress.com
  8. consciousandalert.com
  9. alarakaris.com
  10. downtimewriter.blog

I believe i have done justice to this even if it took me a pretty long while.

To the nominated, you’re indeed amazing. I’m looking out for more of you.

Big thanks to Shalini for being patient enough with me and answering all my questions as regards this.

To every member of our sage kids family, 

I know that, you know that i love you.

*Grin*

Thank you very much!

 I. Am. Grateful.

    “…I’m just secretive…”

    When Vanessa was younger she’d tell her parents(mum precisely) about everything. 

    She never held anything back or kept anything from them.

    She would cry if there was a need to, before them. She would smile, laugh(genuinely)…she never masked anything.

    But, as she grew, communication was left behind on the growth journey.

    She talked less to them.

    She kept almost everything  to herself.

    And said only the few selected and modified words.

    And if there was a need to cry, she’d cry in secret; hiding her tears from them. Most times she’d mask things up with smiles.

    What happened to that open spirit that came with her early years?

    Where did she lose it?

    She just doesn’t get it!

    This is where it gets really captivating.

    I met a girl the other day. She was in her quarter teens, i could tell.

    For a while i observed her from a distance, her calmness struck me. 

    From my observation, she seemed to me like a lover of alone moments, for she was alone with a book and earpiece inserted into her ears.

    So i got close to her and before i knew it, we were talking….

    Cynthia: hey, 

    TST*: (removes the earpiece and shifts on the seat) hey.

    Cynthia: (sits beside her) hope I’m not distracting you?

    TST: no, not at all.

    Cynthia: ok, do you love kids?(i wasn’t sure why i asked that though).

    TST: (chuckles) yes. I love kids.

    Cynthia:(smiles) that’s good. So, would you agree that you’re also a child?

    TST: ummm…yeah, I am. We all are. Though growing, but we are ever dependent on the Father.

    Cynthia: thank you! You know, I thought i was alone in this. Like, everyone around me is all grown up and you know what they say? ….”grow up. Stop being childish”.

    TST: (smiling) you know, the time will have to come when we must grow.

    Cynthia: yeah, right. But not outgrow the beautiful virtues of childhood. Anyways, tell me: how’s your relationship with your parents?

    TST: i don’t really get.

    Cynthia: you know (gesturing with her hands), communication and every aspect of your relationship with them. Do you guys talk?

    TST: ok. Ummm, it’s not strong. Like, it’s not really anything to write home about.

    Cynthia: why?

    TST: i don’t know. (After a short silence), the thing is, I’M JUST SECRETIVE.

    Cynthia: oh…ok. Why is that?

    TST: i don’t know, that’s just me.

    Cynthia: ok…so if your mum or someone around you comes up to you and pours it all out to you, you won’t do the same?

    TST: (shaking her head) nope. I won’t.

    Cynthia: (nods her head in an ‘i understand’ manner) ok…(after a brief silence), what if it is virtual?

    TST: what if what?

    Cynthia: you know, you get to chat, not face-to-face, but online, with a family member. Would you pour out if need be?

    TST: um, it depends. Because, i love talking to intelligent people,  it makes me feel CONNECTED.

    Cynthia: (digesting the just shared information)…i see. So you talk when you feel connected, yeah?

    TST: yeaaaah! (Nodding her head in a ‘you got it’ way)…

    ….. There was an interruption soon after.

    But it was indeed a satisfying time conversing with her. And even after we’ve parted, i was still pondering on her words(the connection part).

    I mean, this is something most of us can relate to.

    I couldn’t help, but wonder:

    What can we do about this connection thing? 

    Or is Communication possible without getting/feeling connected. 

    Don’t you think it’s high time we reconnected?

    If you already connect with your parents, how did you do it?
    Because we really need to connect and communicate more.

    Feel free to drop your sagacious opinions.
    *TST- Terrific Sage Teen(named OMO…’or-m-or’).
     

    A little rewind: the intro

    Has this happened to you?
    You meet someone for the first time,

    And immediately, you already connect on various deep levels.

    With so much to say and share,

    You guys just go on and on and on

    The feeling was mutual, 

    Because though there has been no formal introduction, it felt like you’ve known for ages.

    You’d love to forget about it(the introductions) and just keep flowing.

    But,

    Hey…

    Slow down,

    ‘Tell me about you”.

    After my first post and the support i got(of which I’m deeply grateful), i already feel like i’ ve known you for years. I feel connected.

    But still i want to formally introduce our sage kids to you.

    Ready?

    Alright.

    Our sage kids is a blog dedicated to putting our kids first, collectively nurturing them, and promoting a rapport between them everyone(every relationship) whose actions and inactions contribute a thing or two to their being. As well as allowing them a say in their upbringing.

    This is where we savour the beauty of watching them, ease the difficulty of handling them and learn from the sagacity in their utterances(and actions).

    And me?

    Well, I’m Cynthia Imade,

    Nope, I’m not a parent(yet), but i will be, i know it’s not too early to start learning from those already in it.

    I’ve got 4 kids at home(me in addition makes it 5), they are our sage case study.

    I also go out where i get to meet more of them in their unique amazing ways.

    You can be sure to get to read more of our kids and their relationships in the long run.

    Our sage kids are everywhere. So,  you’re welcome to share what our sage kids are up to at your side.

    You can email me of ANYTHING: 

    cynthiaimade19@gmail.com

    You can also contact me ANYTIME with the contact page.

    Your sage contributions via comments are and will be greatly appreciated.

    You’re just as crucial. Don’t forget to share ways through which you’ve improved your relationships with everyone around you, including your problems with them. Your suggestions and ideas are welcome. Questions(for our parents and elders…anyone)? Bring them in, We’ll try as much as we can to answer them.

    Let’s make our relationships everything worth fighting.

    This is where the future is.

    Thank you, for being a part of oursagekids. Your sagacity fuels me!

     

    “And we can pray…”

    You’ll love this.

    As I creamed her body after the evening’s bath, she said (from the bowels of spontaneity),

    ‘Cynthia, do you know you can only tell your friends about Jesus?’

    Cynthia: yes. You can tell everybody because Jesus loves everybody.

    She: yes. But You cannot tell Satan, you can only tell Jesus (we cannot tell people about Satan, only about Jesus)

    AND YOU CAN PRAY” she said, closing her eyes,

    “God, thank you; we like you and we always want you to play with us and we will be good children” she opened her eyes, smiling a smile that lit up the room.

    and as she ran off after dressing up,

    I was smiling…

    It doesn’t end there.

    It got me thinking,

    we can actually pray.

    Anytime: When overwhelmed, when at rest, in all situations, whenever, wherever, however- we. can. pray.

    But can i be honest?

    Most times, it can be hard to pray

    or other times,

    we pray but are left with that feeling.

    You know it.

    You get it too, right?

    That lingering feeling that leaves us thinking that no one heard the prayers.

    That the prayers will not be answered.

    That feeling, that makes us want to do ‘something, anything’  (by ourselves) to help the situation.

    And at the end of the day, we’re thrown into worries and anxieties trying to do His (God’s) work for him

    That’s when we seek faith (even the mustard seed sized one) to hold on to

    But then it’ll seem to be inexistent.

    Found myself in such situation sometime ago,

    After my examination for which I had prepared for so much and was sure I was going to come out with a juicy result.

    Only for the result to come,

    And guess what?

    it wasn’t up to my expectations.

    I cried.

    I felt like I had been betrayed or something. I expected more.

    It got to the point that I didn’t want to talk or face anybody. I felt like a disappointment.

    I just wanted to, you know, just be alone.

    But then I thought,

    “Cynthia, what are you doing? Did you forget that He has plans for you? That His plans for you goes beyond figures that is generated from a series of tests and all that?”

    I thought,

    “you should be grateful because He’s got you and won’t let you down”

    Right then I wiped my tears and said in a whisper “father thank you for your plans over my life. Thank you for what you’ll do, I cannot even begin to imagine it”

    I was still a little sad afterwards but talking to myself and reminding myself of his promises helped.

    Now I know its not that easy and that there are worst situations

    But God is very faithful.

    That is why He gave His words(and His words are true and are forever)

    We can pray and we can believe

    In John 14(verses 12 and 13 precisely)

    He said ‘BELIEVE and greater works you will do’. He went ahead to say ‘ASK ANYTHING(whatever you ask) in my name I will do’.

    He has given the words, He is willing, able and ready to do(exceedingly) what He has said, but first remind Him of those words. And how would you remind Him? Through PRAYERS (AND BELIEVING).

    I know…

    “How can I even pray, I can’t even bring up the words to pray. Praying is too arrrgh” you might say. It’s alright.

    But let’s look at it,

    Firstly, don’t be lazy. Praying should be a habit (so that even it seems to be most difficult, you’ll find yourself doing it) that’s awesome, right?

    We can form that praying habit if we can consistently work towards it (and we will!).

    Secondly, do you know that prayers never expires?

    So… that prayer of your grandma for her ‘unborn’ children and children’s children(generations after) many years ago,

    Is still carrying you through today.

    You’re still here because someone, somewhere have spent minutes, hours, days on his/her knees for you.

    You’re here because someone somewhere once said “God bless you, my child (and believed it).

    Hence…

    What you’re enjoying today is as a result of someone’s past ‘assumed unanswered prayers’.

    Marvelous, isn’t it?

    So that means…

    The prayers you say now, aren’t just for you, but for those after you.

    Awesome, isn’t it?

    Although, it’s undeniable that,

    Praying and believing is hardest especially when in crises

    And we’ve all faced that situation(no matter how small) that made us question the availability of a God.

    That situation that made us doubt the possibility of a future.

    But when faced with such,

    Isn’t it best to look back at how far we’ve come and thank Him for that?

    And as well as thank Him for the fact that He has plans for us.

    When faced with such situations we can remind ourselves the great things He has done and His promises to us.

    So maybe you want to pray but don’t know how.

    How about you relax and tighten your grip on faith,

    Because even in the darkest situation,

    There will be someone somewhere praying for you (mothers are good at that).

    And do you know another wonderful thing?

    The Spirit himself is praying for us too (Romans8:26)

    Hallelujah!

    So whatever you do, whichever situation you find yourself,

    Remember that YOU CAN PRAY.

    So, stay faithful in prayer (Romans12:12)

    And in whatever you ask, believe and it’ll be done (mark11:24).

    Believe and rivers of living waters will flow from within you (john7:38).

    And if you can’t pray, just thank Him and believe.

    Cause someone is praying for you.

    The spirit is interceding for you.

    All you have to do is,

    Activate your spirit (make your plans)

    And get ready for a miracle (don’t worry about anything, He’ll establish them)

    Because if there is a man to pray, there is God to answer.

    Since there is a God to answer, there is a man to believe.

    Glory!

    Have you found yourself in crises?

    How did you go about praying and believing?

    How about those who prayed for you when you couldn’t pray for yourself (friends, family, anyone)

    Feel free to drop in your sagacious contributions via comments. Let’s talk.